2018 really over? Yes, it is!

It’s the end of the year, yay!

I’d be honest, for the life of me, I couldn’t necessarily figure out how to review this year. Now, don’t get me wrong, there was definitely a lot that happened this year.

I’ve written a lot about my highlights and experiences this year. So why not review you should ask?

Here’s why, see  I didn’t have any new year resolutions (sure, you’ve outgrown this too by now). In fact, for the major part of the year, I tried to journal daily, instead of waiting until the end of the year. For the days, I couldn’t I tried to write at the end of the week, and this December in particular, I spent time every day writing about 3 different things I was grateful for.

The truth is I really just wanted to be a better person in all areas especially in: my relationship with people, my career, and my finances. I challenged myself, oh I really did; moved past my comfort zone and found out a lot about me I didn’t even know.

What did I do differently?

I spent a lot of time with ME, and I was more intentional with TV time. Now that I think it really, twas less TV for me and more YouTube, a lot of YouTube.

In short, let’s talk about our favorite YouTubers of 2018. This one’s been brewing for a while, particularly because even I saw the change in me when I started being intentional about what I watch on YouTube. These ones inspired me in several ways; some confirmed God’s Word to me, some propelled me to go forward with my Christian walk, and some taught me things I needed to know more about (I’ve added their YouTube channels and Instagram handles below)

My top 10 YouTubers of 2018

1. Ty Bello 

Not your typical YouTuber, but her channel remains on my top list. Remember the Greenland album from 2006, this is one album I cannot stop listening to. @Τy’s songs, her carried me through some tough times. Some months back, there was just a cloak of sadness and so much uncertainty around me, I was very worried, anxious and unsure. One day on my way to school I downloaded and listened to almost every song on this album, and oh how my spirit was lifted. The words were so apt..God interrupted my intentions through unexpected interceptions, perfect timing.

Sometimes, I still wonder about how relevant and evergreen the songs are. But I’m also happy that I’m not alone, knowing someone’s been where I’ve been and got through is enough hope. These days, I just binge listen to the songs on TY’s channel, especially the spontaneous songs. I’m hoping one day, I can do the same with my gift.

2. Heather Lindsey

If you don’t know Heather, hmmm what do I say🤔?

Heather’s messages and quotes are almost like she’s in my head. What I love the most about her is her walk on obedience. Just knowing that someone else has been there and that I’m not alone on my faith journey, and of course, God is real.

3. Stephanie Ike

I’m still not sure how I found out about Stephanie, but I’m so grateful I did. I love her passion for teaching and how down to earth she is, and of course because she’s Nigerian (shoutout). Stephanie is real, you guys like she doesn’t mince words and she’s such a water walker

4. Michael Todd

Oh, Pastor Mike of Transformation Church is such a vibe! His relationship series (1-8) was so liberating. Talk about timeliness, it was just what I needed when I found it. After this, his sermons became one of my go-to sermons especially on days I was too lazy to go to church.

5. Sarah Jakes Roberts

Girl! Girl!! Girl!!!

Sarah is fire. Like how can you be so gentle, yet so fierce? Sarah’s messages propel me to let go, to not settle for safe, and to trust His timing.

Need I say no more? Just check out everything you can find on Sarah Jakes Roberts, and thank me later.

6. Sisi Yemmie

Of course, I know you know SisiYemmie. In fact, YouTube Nigeria is synonymous to SisiYemmie..hahaha. Let me just brag and say I’m a better cook because of Sisi Yemmie’s videos. My best of her was a video where she lay it bare and told of the struggles coming up with ideas on her own without a mentor to look up to. This is so my story, and I’m glad that Sisi Yemmie has gone through everything to build a global brand. I’m tapping into this wisdom too. Amen, Amen!

7. Afua Osei

Gosh, I love Afua’s sense of humor any day. I’m not sure which one gets me more, her snazzy posts or her ‘Boring Entrepreneur series’, which is

I love the truths she dishes out in Last time I heard Afua speak, she said: “You have no business doing 5 different things badly when you haven’t done one right”.

8. Tomie Balogun

Tomie is new to YouTube, so I’m happy I was already stalking her on IG and knew when the YouTube channel went live. Her ability to break down money matters with such simplicity and poise is so endearing. No wonder she’s the real Millenial Investment Expert. Kudos!!!

9. Tosin Alabi Ade-Aibinu

Tosin, Tosin, Tosin! This one is a surprise to even me, but I love Tosin’s personality and positive energy, her dress sense, and her relationship/marriage talks (because you need all the sense in the world)

10. XXX

Number 10 is your slot.

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Tell me, who’s one YouTuber you’re grateful you found out about this year?

Overall, this year, just like last year, I’m grateful for life and looking forward to smashing more goals/breaking new grounds.

I’ll go with 2019 is that year of quantum leap!!!

Highlights from WIMBIZ 17th Annual conference (1)

I’ve always wanted to attend the WIMBIZ conference, especially when I found out some of my favorite career women were either founding members or part of the council. Women like Ibukun Awosika (chairperson of Firstbank), Foluso Gbadamosi (Super advocate for women in tech), and of course Olubunmi Aboderin-Talabi (for her classy demeanor and work with Clever Cloggs publishing).

Need I say any more? WIMBIZ has an amazing network of women at different rungs of the career ladder, and since I’m finding my way back into the career web (after a short stint away for my MBA), I thought it was one of the best ways to inspire me and ofcourse meet and connect with amazing women.

So enough said. Ofcourse, you know I couldn’t type/write everything from a 2-day 9am-5pm packed event. I’ll be honest, I also didn’t sit still throughout the session, sometimes I went out and some other times I was trying to catch up with other engagements.

Anyway, I’ve decided to break this down into two posts. So here’s Part 1 of my WIMBIZ 2018 highlight

Speaker lineup

Let’s start with the agenda/speaker line up

Highlights
Mr Austin Okere‘s suggestions to reduce the gender divide were quite something.
  • Stand up to be seen, speak to be heard
  • Don’t be bothered about what people will say. Have you noticed how when a woman on heels falls/trips, she looks around to see if anyone saw her fall. Sometimes at the expense of checking if she didn’t get hurt.
  • Do not be bothered about what people will say. -Austin Okere

    • If you don’t make mistakes you’ll never learn. Embrace the mistakes, they’re part of learning
    • Do not look outside yourself to estimate your success
    • Claim your space at the table
    • Make your partner a real partner
    • Do not leave before you leave, don’t shy away from Strategic roles. Stay in the zone until you have to go.
  • Because it first takes winning in one’s mind to win on the outside, Mr Okere suggested these golden nuggets
    1. Exchange affirmations for accomplishments (an early no is better than a delayed no)
    2. Exchange security for significance
    3. Immediate victories for longterm performance (invest in things that last)
    4. Use WillPower, WayPower, Weightpower

    Without commitment, you won’t start. Without consistency, you won’t finish

    My all-time favorite was from Mrs Osinbajo. In fact hers had to be the most heart-wrenching message I have heard in a long, long time. It wasn’t any long message or how-to’s on being a successful woman, or even a lecture of the 5/7 steps to being unstoppable, it was different, it was pure, it was personal.
    She was so gentle yet so authentic and truthful you could almost cry, I’m serious some people teared up. These were my lessons from her on being unstoppable:
    1. YOU are unstoppable but first, you must know who you are.
    2. To be unstoppable, you must be you. Be true to yourself and to yourself be true. To be you, you can’t be everyone else, you must be the only you that there is.
    1. Don’t wait till you’re asked. Take steps. Crawl, Walk, Fly. She told of a story of how her dreams of being able to bake from her teenage years made it possible to be able to bake for her daughter. In her words, dreams can come true. Make sure your dream must not die, it is the dream in your heart is what makes me unstoppable
    2. It’s better when we all move along and not just me.
    3. When they say to you as a female to be more like a man in a masculine world, ask them “Who said so?”
    4. Just fight every opposition to being you.
    Now take a deep breath and think on these things. No really, think about it.
    Without sounding too cliche, My interpretation of this is about being in touch with the inner you, the you you’re trying to find.
    I once saw someone’s tweet on finding self, his claim was that motivational speakers lie to people when they always say to be successful you need to find yourself. Here was my response. Do you agree?
    So tell me, what’s your takeaway from my takeaway?☺️
    Also if there’s any session from the agenda you are interested in knowing more about, please comment here or DM me on IG. I’ll be sure to respond.
    With love,
    WamWam

    My Worst Experience Resuming a New Job

    It was Week 5 of my brand-new job (okay not so brand new, it was week 5 already, haha).

    Truth is, it’s been all sorts of cray cray and play play. So I wrote a few things down in an attempt to get things off my chest.

    In my first week of resuming at “brand-new job”, someone actually asked me — So what are you going to be doing? Forget that this was someone that should have been reporting to me in some sort of way.

    Next, someone else I was introduced to asked so what exactly would you do? It wasn’t the question that threw me off, it was the way it was said…in a very “we don’t need you here” way.

    Worse still was when I was on a call once in the conference room and someone walked in, I politely asked to be excused as I wanted to be alone in the conference room, instead of respecting this, the person asked if my call was confidential..when I said no..he responded that he could stay and pulled a chair. The way I rolled my eyes ehn, but that wasn’t enough. Next, I said, please you’d need to leave, he was still arguing so I changed my tone to a bit more authoritative ( he was my not-so-direct report) something along the lines of a stern “you’re still here” did the magic, he got the message and left.

    That’s not all folks. On another day, I was discussing something with another supposed colleague on the phone and he actually told me I was wasting his time. I think this was the biggest one for me, I couldn’t even believe how I handled it. I basically gently (I was very careful about not raising my voice) told him he couldn’t speak to me on the phone that way and I hung up.

    At that time, I had about 4–5 years of professional experience, and in all my years of professional employment, it’s been the first time I was indirectly questioned, quizzed merely by my appearance…Which brings me to my gist.

    What is it with people and being judgmental?

    I honestly didn’t realize how annoying this could be, but every now and then I realize how annoying it is to treat people someway simply because of our biased prejudice. (I’m small in stature and even though I am getting closer to 30, I look way younger)

    If there’s anything I’ve learnt in recent times, it’s to treat everyone as equally as possible whether rich or poor, tall or short, fine or not so fine, man or woman, and I inadvertently expect the same or is that too much to ask? Well it’s fine.

    Everyday I’m learning also not to let any one’s foolishness rain on my Happy parade.

    Earlier this week, I stumbled on this old random rant of mine, and thought to ask, what’s been your worst new job experience? And how did you deal with overcoming this?

    Hello July

    HELLO JULY,

    Mid-May/June had me feeling all sorts of emotions (so much so, I didn’t do a May review). At first, it was anger, then pain, then regret, sadness, confusion, mini depression, and just fighting to stay hopeful, and the constant questioning of why me. I had waited so long and yet back to square one. On the outside I seemed fine (I wrote PMP and passed in flying colours lol), but deep down I knew I had reached my wits end.
    I wanted answers, directions, anything but the confusion that had hit me back to back.

    One Saturday afternoon, I broke down and just cried my heart out till there was nothing to say.

    Why me? Nothing is working as planned, I cried.

    I’ll send people to help you, He said.
    This is so hard, it doesn’t make sense, I thought

    Trust me, my inner man nudged.


    Why not me? He had chosen me, justified me, and loves me.

    Then came light, peace, joy, hope, clarity, understanding. I took a step back to reflect – it wasn’t about me.
    He is building character in me, shattering my past pain, asking me to face and deal with my insecurities and allow my hidden bruises heal to beautiful scars.
    So now, I’m sure about who I am.

    I am His, He is mine. I’m His vessel, He is making purpose, and I’m a proud purposeful water walker.
    To a purposeful half year!🥂🥂

    What’s the hardest thing you did last half year? Me, saying yes to God on a seemingly “foolish” path.

    Highlights from WIMBIZ 17th Annual conference (2)

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    Hey there. It’s exactly a month from WIMBIZ’s 17th Annual conference. For one, it sure took a while to put down all the lessons/highlights from this packed and eventful conference, so I decided to split this into two parts.

    You can check out Part 1 here.

    Here’s Part 2 of my highlights from WIMBIZ conference

    Iyin Aboyeji’s advice on doing better in education

    • We need a more world-class Minister of Education. And women can take the position of this. No more bad education
    • Creating institutions that can create talent
    • We need more policies that include more women
    • Volunteer and teach skills and pass them on
    • Everyone needs to take intentional steps

    Begin with the end in mind (Abiola Adekoya & Esiri Agbeyi)

    Financial planning is essentially living life now in anticipation of future life. Biola’s advice: every time you spend now, you might be depriving achieving a future dream.

    On managing streams of income, both advise to

    • Have a solid balance of passive and active income
    • Understand risk appetite and risk profile
    • Be consistent. It’s not how much you start with, you need to be consistent to achieve a certain level of investment/savings
    • Understand what you’re putting money into (if it offers a return to good to be true, there’s a bubble in there)

    So what can I put my money into, we asked.
    -Liquid assets (cash instruments- FD, TBills)Talk to the bank
    -Bonds (Eurobonds & FGN bonds)
    -Stocks
    -Alternative assets (like investing in a company)
    -Property (real estate)

     Career and work-life balance

    • Identifying suitable mentors
    • Watch people from afar and pick from them
    • Sponsorship and mentorship are important
    • Make sure to give back
    • Balance Politics in the workplace
    • Let people know your value system
    • Help the children understand you and your work
    • Study your husbands work life balance and make good use of your free time
    • It’s about quality not quantity. As women in the workplace, you can remotely connect to your family
    • Don’t ever let anyone tell you it can’t be done because it’s been done over and over
    • Behind every successful woman there’s a man
    • Communication & Information is key. Make it work
    • Be aware of the wife/mom guilt, don’t let it hold you down. Drop the guilt.
    • Always remember you. Like during emergency in an airplane, put your mask on first before helping others

     

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    Thank you for reading.